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Author: melisar

Have Your Baby Shower (& Eat the Cake, Too)

Experiencing adoption is different than experiencing a pregnancy, obviously. But can’t all the joyous rituals be the same? I’ve heard this debate among adoptive parents so many times throughout my few years submerged in the adoption community. Some hopeful adoptive mamas are asked by dear friends to host a baby shower on her behalf.  Sometimes, we’re caught off-guard and don’t know what to say. Maybe

4 Important Lessons Adoption Taught Me

I went in to adoption with very little exposure of the concept. I didn’t have much knowledge on the subject nor know anyone personally who had adopted. It seemed so far-fetched, a mountain we couldn’t possibly climb. I was overwhelmed at the information online and the endless resources. In the beginning, I was paralyzed with fear and doubt. I had always been a planner. I

5 Misconceptions of Adoption

There are so many misconceptions regarding adoption. Mostly, those around us are simply unaware and uneducated about the topic. In the past, society has not always celebrated this occurrence or recognized that families are now made in so many different ways. We’re evolving from decades of living in a society that only recognized the “traditional” family and way of life. The concept of families is

When Adoption Doesn’t Go As Planned

My family just experienced a failed adoption.  Many people in the adoption community somewhat balk at the term “failed adoption” because they believe it’s disrespectful to the parents who have bravely decided to parent instead of placing their child with an adoptive family. This is understandable. However, I can tell you first hand that it very much feels like a devastating failure for the hopeful

The Chronically Ill Child: When Our Best Doesn’t Seem Good Enough

“When something goes wrong with children’s bodies, the reverberations penetrate deep into the consciousness of families and health professionals alike.” Susan McDaniel, Jeri Hepworth, and William Doherty, Medical Family Therapists Who of you parents have not stayed by the bedside of your child with a raspy cough, congested sinuses, warming temperature, or upset stomach? Illness is a strikingly predictable feature of childhood. Acute illness is bad

Making Decisions Under Stress

We live in a society of change and speed—high speed internet, fast food, express lanes, instant messaging, the list goes on. Life’s stressors can also come upon us both fast and unexpected. We may be, one minute, basking in comfort and security but one hiccup can shake up our lives, throwing us into a state of fear and uncertainty. As we dwell in a world

Adoption: Remembering the Miracle

“Time and experience have taught me a priceless lesson: Any child you take for your own becomes your own if you give of yourself to that child. I have borne two children and had seven others by adoption, and they are all my children, equally beloved and precious.”         --Dale Evans, Singer, Actress Most of us yearn for the opportunity to hold the title of mommy and