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5 Things You Should Know About Adoption

It will cost you. I’m not just talking money here. Although you may find yourself spending every last penny in your bank account, certainly. But adoption costs a lot more than that. Adoption is sacrifices. It’s compromise, waiting, and a lot of unknowns. It’s wanting to ask a million question and likely never getting an answer. It will cost you heartache and joy. It

6 Ways to Care for Drug-Exposed Child

In adoption, drug exposure is common. It sounds incredibly scary and overwhelming to be open to situations that involve drug use. You’ll hear of all the risks and possible long-term effects. You’ll think about all the health risks. You’ll think about how that child may be more likely to develop unhealthy habits or addictions as they age. You’ll feel like you’re not equipped to deal

13 Inexpensive Holiday Gift Ideas for Birthfamilies

The holidays are coming quickly and you’re likely thinking about your child’s birthfamily. Whether you have an open adoption, closed adoption, or something in between, sending an inexpensive but personal holiday gift could mean the world to any member of your child’s birthfamily. 1. Handprint ornament. Yep, it’s cliché. You know, the little round clay-like ornaments that your child’s handprint or footprint goes on. You can

How to Survive Adoption Preparation

It’s no secret that the adoption process is long, tiresome, and emotionally strenuous.  And after all of that work and effort, a baby is never guaranteed. In the beginning you may experience an abundance of excitement as you learn about and pursue something new. But over time the paperwork, expenses, and unknowns start piling up. The excitement of it all fades a bit. You may

You get to be tired, too.

There are several things that I’ve heard adoptive mamas say over and over throughout this journey. But this one always stops me in my tracks. First of all, because I can relate. Secondly, because it’s absurd but parents by adoption actually feel this way. Are you ready? Here it is. Adoptive parents (specifically mamas) feel as if they don’t get to be tired, complain, or

Don’t Feel Ashamed About A Closed Adoption

If you’ve spent any time sniffing around the adoption community to help educate yourself, you’ve undoubtedly heard that “open adoption is best”. You’ve probably heard adult adoptees speak out about how hurtful their past is for them and automatically assume this is the same for any adoptee. You’ve likely seen Instagram-worthy pictures of families who seemingly have the “perfect” relationship with their child’s birthfamily and

6 Ways to Honor Your Child’s Birthfamily (When You Don’t Have an Open Adoption)

We’ve all heard from those who seem to have the ideal open adoption with their child’s birthfamily. They do everything together and meet every other week. We hear from every corner of the world that open adoption is always best and our children must have a relationship with their biological parents to feel secure and complete. There are so many differing perspectives and opinions on

A Pledge to my Children’s Birthmothers

Whew, this is a big one. I’m already tearing up just from typing the title of this article. I feel overwhelmed by gratitude and weighed down by immense pressure all at the same time. Let me explain. I can’t fully grasp the depths of adoption even after I’ve adopted twice (and on the journey to do it a third time). Because the emotions, the biology, the