I used songs and quotes a lot through the waiting of infertility and the adoption process. I leaned on them when I was feeling down and uninspired. I had them saved to my phone, wrote them in my planner, pasted them to my mirror, anywhere I could bump in to them throughout the day. Surrounding myself with positivity was important for my mental health and
I could have called this “1000 Things Not to Say To a Parent By Adoption” but I don’t have all day and neither do you. As parents by adoption, we’ve heard it all. We’ve been approached by random strangers asking about the details of our adoptions or questions about why our skin doesn’t match. We’ve probably been offended and embarrassed in a million different ways
Perhaps one of the biggest worries that hopeful parents have is that they won’t bond with their new baby. As adoptive parents, we don’t get 9+ months to grow our belly, feel kicks, learn their habits or feel their hiccups. Instead, our months are usually filled with unknowns, anxiety, fear, excitement, hesitant preparation, and a lot of waiting. I’m here to tell you good news. You
Post-adoption depression, much like post-partum depression describes the stress, anxiety, and emotions that may follow after your adoption takes place. Although it may not be a formally recognized diagnosis, it is very real. It’s typically preset in new mothers by adoption after the placement has happened or the adoption is finalized. And possibly the hardest part is that no one tells you, no one warns