If you’re matched out of state, you’ll likely complete the Interstate Compact on the Placement of Children (ICPC) before traveling home. Here’s how to pack, what to expect, and how to keep things moving.
Both states (the birth state and your home state) must approve the placement before the baby crosses state lines. Your agency/attorneys submit your ICPC packet and keep you updated.
ICPC in Plain English
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Start with a Shared Openness Plan
Set expectations early: Decide update frequency (texts/photos/letters/video) and special days (birthdays, milestones).
Use plain language: “We’ll share monthly photos the first year, then quarterly.”
Keep it written: A simple document reduces confusion.
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Boundaries That Protect Connection
Privacy & pacing: Share only what feels safe; you can adjust over time.
Respectful tone: When emotions spike, pause, journal, then respond.
When to meet: Choose public, low-stim
The First 72 Hours: Recovery, Consent & Communication
Birth mother recovery: Prioritize rest, pain management, and clear follow-up instructions.
Consent timing: Discuss timing with your attorney/caseworker per Utah and Idaho law. No one should pressure you.
Openness touch-point: Agree on first updates (text/photo/short call) that match your plan.
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Week 1–2: ICPC, Paperwork & Settling In
If out of state: ICPC approval usually takes 5–14 days before baby travels
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