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Adoptive Parents

When Adoption Doesn’t Go As Planned

My family just experienced a failed adoption.  Many people in the adoption community somewhat balk at the term “failed adoption” because they believe it’s disrespectful to the parents who have bravely decided to parent instead of placing their child with an adoptive family. This is understandable. However, I can tell you first hand that it very much feels like a devastating failure for the hopeful

Making Decisions Under Stress

We live in a society of change and speed—high speed internet, fast food, express lanes, instant messaging, the list goes on. Life’s stressors can also come upon us both fast and unexpected. We may be, one minute, basking in comfort and security but one hiccup can shake up our lives, throwing us into a state of fear and uncertainty. As we dwell in a world

Adoption: Remembering the Miracle

“Time and experience have taught me a priceless lesson: Any child you take for your own becomes your own if you give of yourself to that child. I have borne two children and had seven others by adoption, and they are all my children, equally beloved and precious.”         --Dale Evans, Singer, Actress Most of us yearn for the opportunity to hold the title of mommy and

5 Things You Should Know About Adoption

It will cost you. I’m not just talking money here. Although you may find yourself spending every last penny in your bank account, certainly. But adoption costs a lot more than that. Adoption is sacrifices. It’s compromise, waiting, and a lot of unknowns. It’s wanting to ask a million question and likely never getting an answer. It will cost you heartache and joy. It

6 Ways to Care for Drug-Exposed Child

In adoption, drug exposure is common. It sounds incredibly scary and overwhelming to be open to situations that involve drug use. You’ll hear of all the risks and possible long-term effects. You’ll think about all the health risks. You’ll think about how that child may be more likely to develop unhealthy habits or addictions as they age. You’ll feel like you’re not equipped to deal

13 Inexpensive Holiday Gift Ideas for Birthfamilies

The holidays are coming quickly and you’re likely thinking about your child’s birthfamily. Whether you have an open adoption, closed adoption, or something in between, sending an inexpensive but personal holiday gift could mean the world to any member of your child’s birthfamily. 1. Handprint ornament. Yep, it’s cliché. You know, the little round clay-like ornaments that your child’s handprint or footprint goes on. You can

How to Survive Adoption Preparation

It’s no secret that the adoption process is long, tiresome, and emotionally strenuous.  And after all of that work and effort, a baby is never guaranteed. In the beginning you may experience an abundance of excitement as you learn about and pursue something new. But over time the paperwork, expenses, and unknowns start piling up. The excitement of it all fades a bit. You may

You get to be tired, too.

There are several things that I’ve heard adoptive mamas say over and over throughout this journey. But this one always stops me in my tracks. First of all, because I can relate. Secondly, because it’s absurd but parents by adoption actually feel this way. Are you ready? Here it is. Adoptive parents (specifically mamas) feel as if they don’t get to be tired, complain, or

Don’t Feel Ashamed About A Closed Adoption

If you’ve spent any time sniffing around the adoption community to help educate yourself, you’ve undoubtedly heard that “open adoption is best”. You’ve probably heard adult adoptees speak out about how hurtful their past is for them and automatically assume this is the same for any adoptee. You’ve likely seen Instagram-worthy pictures of families who seemingly have the “perfect” relationship with their child’s birthfamily and