Please understand that these blog posts are written to use language that people commonly use when searching for help with their adoption plans. Unfortunately, while many of us are familiar with positive adoption language, most expectant moms that come to us at first do not understand what that means. The most common search term on the internet for expectant moms is “how do I give up my baby for adoption.” If we do not include those words in our blog posts, and instead put “how do I create an adoption plan for my baby” then our website will not show up in most expectant moms’ Google search results.
Although my pregnancy wasn’t the dream I had for myself… I know, I know, it’s shocking not to feel like young, single and pregnant wasn’t my fairy tale ending, right, but I wasn’t ready to be a mother. I didn’t have a job, a stable home, or a good man who could take care of me or a child, nor a plan for the future.
Telling your family and friends you’re pregnant. Now here is a scary moment in time. For some young women it’s where you wish you could run away from this “predicament” but there’s no running, you’re pregnant and that is the fact that needs to be looked at.
I’m sure by the time you’ve found out about the new person you have inside of you, life has
“Family isn't always blood.
It’s the people in your life that want
you in theirs.
The ones who accept you for who you are.
The ones who would do anything to see you smile and love you no matter what.”Author Unknown
This quote sums up how I see my children’s Birth Parents, at least the ones we
are able to have relationships with.
They are family, they love not only the child
A few years ago I was able to be part of a local birthmother group, it was a wonderful experience and I made so many wonderful friends. I was able to talk to girls who were about to place their babies for adoption, and ones who already had placed. Together we laughed and we cried but most of all we understood each other.
I remember after
Is There Joy in This Journey?
It seems no matter what situation you find yourself in you can now go online and find someone who is, or has gone through, the same struggles, fears, or trials you are going through. I feel as if the internet is full of information that can overwhelm you with knowledge, a lot of the time that can be a wonderful
When the word got out I was 19 single and expecting, so many people wanted to share their opinions on what I should or shouldn’t do; whether it was to my face or behind my back. I felt pressure everywhere I turned: so many people either telling me how selfish I was for making the decision to place, asking me to place my son for
Adoption Terms Adoption assistanceFinancial or medical assistance given on a one-time or on-going basis to an adoptive parent on behalf of an adopted child. This subsidy may be provided through federal, state, county and/or local resources. (See itle IV-E.)
Any activity/procedure designed to facilitate the entire legal process of adoption including intake, pre-placement activities and planning, adoptive placement of the child, post-placement activities, and post-legalization (or
I ran into a girl, well, woman now, I met when I was placing my son for adoption. We were both volunteering at an inner city medical retreat when she came up to me and asked, “This is a little bold but did you ever place a baby for adoption?” I looked at her and immediately I knew who she was. We hugged and began
The other day, I started looking through my pictures on Shutterfly from a time before my son. The way I dressed. The way that I carried myself. The wayward look on my face. It seems so obvious now. I just looked… so… lost.. Incomplete. I closed down the browser and saw my favorite picture of my son and I from the hospital staring back at