“Time and experience have taught me a priceless lesson: Any child you take for your own becomes your own if you give of yourself to that child. I have borne two children and had seven others by adoption, and they are all my children, equally beloved and precious.” --Dale Evans, Singer, Actress Most of us yearn for the opportunity to hold the title of mommy and
It will cost you. I’m not just talking money here. Although you may find yourself spending every last penny in your bank account, certainly. But adoption costs a lot more than that. Adoption is sacrifices. It’s compromise, waiting, and a lot of unknowns. It’s wanting to ask a million question and likely never getting an answer. It will cost you heartache and joy. It
We love to read. We always have. Our toddlers have adopted our reading habits and usually choose to look at books over most other toys. We began reading to our kids as soon as they were born. We’d hold them on our chest as they slept and we’d read the same books over and over. I believe that reading sparks their imagination and influences them
There are several things that I’ve heard adoptive mamas say over and over throughout this journey. But this one always stops me in my tracks. First of all, because I can relate. Secondly, because it’s absurd but parents by adoption actually feel this way. Are you ready? Here it is. Adoptive parents (specifically mamas) feel as if they don’t get to be tired, complain, or
If you’ve spent any time sniffing around the adoption community to help educate yourself, you’ve undoubtedly heard that “open adoption is best”. You’ve probably heard adult adoptees speak out about how hurtful their past is for them and automatically assume this is the same for any adoptee. You’ve likely seen Instagram-worthy pictures of families who seemingly have the “perfect” relationship with their child’s birthfamily and
We’ve all heard from those who seem to have the ideal open adoption with their child’s birthfamily. They do everything together and meet every other week. We hear from every corner of the world that open adoption is always best and our children must have a relationship with their biological parents to feel secure and complete. There are so many differing perspectives and opinions on
Perhaps one of the biggest worries that hopeful parents have is that they won’t bond with their new baby. As adoptive parents, we don’t get 9+ months to grow our belly, feel kicks, learn their habits or feel their hiccups. Instead, our months are usually filled with unknowns, anxiety, fear, excitement, hesitant preparation, and a lot of waiting. I’m here to tell you good news. You